I Feel Guilty

You know those magazines at the supermarket checkout? One of them had the curious headline in lurid, stand-out, knockout colours: “I feel guilty”. Presumably, the attractive, smiling person on the cover belonged to this headline, but they didn’t look as though they felt guilty. They looked positively radiant, which, of course, is how people on the front cover of magazines are supposed to look.

The quote ‘I feel guilty’ is called a ‘hook’. A tag line to arouse your curiosity and make you want to find out more. ie. To buy the magazine. What were they feeling guilty about? How long had this feeling of guilt persisted?

I found myself thinking Hmmpph and phooey. Over my little life, I have cultivated ways of dealing with my guilt. I’ve had to tell you, because I can muck up with the best of them. When deluged by guilt, you fess up, suffer the consequences, try to make amends where possible, say you’re sorry, mean it and then move on, always leaving the door open. It’s not a whole lot of fun or as pleasant as 2 scoops of chocolate ice cream, but it is necessary and important to do.

But there are other questions that this tagline stirred within me.

Like… Why is this even on the cover of a magazine in public view? Do people actually buy this stuff, and if so …why? I can think of nothing more intrusive or tedious than reading about someone else’s guilt journey.

Of course, I chose not to buy this magazine. Glamorous the front cover person looked, there is enough guilt, recrimination, retribution and shirking of responsibility. I don’t need to read about someone else's guilt journey. No matter how artfully this ‘hook’ was offered, I will get better value buying and devouring a mango.

Lent 1 22/2/26

Instruments of Resurrection - Bread and Wine.

During this Lent, we will be offering some homilies under the theme of ‘Instruments of resurrection’. We will discover that the most unlikely, commonplace, mundane things are instruments of resurrection. How clever that the master would use everyday, simple things to communicate and help us enter into the most profound mysteries.

Today’s homily is about bread and wine, which are very much instruments of resurrection.

Let me explain.

John has Jesus teaching his disciples about the strong connection between Eucharist and Resurrection.

He who eats my flesh and drinks my blood has eternal life, and I will raise him up at the last day. (John 6:53–56) 

Later, on Holy Thursday night, Jesus will do a show and tell.  He takes bread from the table, and then takes the cup, saying, “This is my body... This is the cup of my blood,” and when you gather together, this is what I want you to do. “Do this in memory of me.” Now the word Jesus uses for “memory” is a flash church word ‘anamnesis’. It means so much more than simply remembering I have to put out the bins on Wednesday. When The Master says ‘anamnesis’ at the table, He effectively brings past events into the present. In other words, you’re not repeating the action of the past; you’re entering into the event of the past. So today at the Eucharist when the priest says ‘Do this to remember’ (anamnesis) we are not just looking back to a past event 2000 years ago in a shonky upper room, we are actually entering into the events of the upper room and we are there with him and his motley crew at the table. It’s why we say or sing  ‘with angels and archangels.’ This phrase, ‘With angels and archangels,’ is not something that is said lightly or to make us feel gooey inside; it’s telling it how it is. It expresses the reality that we are surrounded by a great cloud of witnesses.  So too we are there at the foot of the cross, and we are there with angels and Mary Magdalene at the empty tomb on Easter Day.

Further, when Jesus tells the Apostles to “do this in memory of me,” on Holy Thursday, he is also foreshadowing what was going to happen the next day.

You’re thinking I’m nuts now as I say these words in the upper room tonight, chaps, ... but just wait and see what happens tomorrow afternoon. You’ll understand that I knew exactly what was going to happen to me and that I wasn’t afraid to die out of love for you.

There’s something else that’s going on here.

When we eat a steak sandwich, muesli or an apple, that food becomes part of us. We assimilate it into our bodies. But at the Eucharist, We become part of his body.

On the altar, through this mysterious exchange of grace, bread and wine become instruments of resurrection.

Something I learnt this year. Most of the resurrection stories happen within the context of a meal. Why is that? Not by accident, surely. The Risen Christ could appear to anyone and within any context he liked. When you’re God, you have lots of choices. But the Risen one chooses the context of congenial meals, food and refreshing beverages to appear.

These appearances—on the road to Emmaus, in the Upper Room, on the beach—all have echoes of what we do here at the altar.

Emmaus with its glimpse of Him who walks with us and disappears the moment when we realise He’s with us. The upper room ‘Have you anything here to eat?’ On the lake of Galilee ‘Bring some of the fish you have caught’. Let’s eat together.

He who eats my flesh and drinks my blood (bread and wine) has eternal life, and I will raise him up at the last day. Bread and wine are instruments of his resurrection. They are Instruments of our resurrection.

Lord Jesus Christ, by the three days you lay in the tomb, you sanctified the grave to be a bed of hope of resurrection. Grant that when we lie in our own grave, we may sleep in peace until that glorious day when you awaken us to your glory. Then we shall see you face to face and in your light we shall see light and know your splendour, for you live forever and ever Amen.

Going Cheap.

I’m reflecting back over the Black Friday sale, the Christmass sale and the Boxing Day sale. Discounts and bargains galore.

At the same time, nation continues to rise against nation often for the sake of greed and wanting what someone else has.

This ‘acquisition’ comes at a cost that no one can calculate because the currency is human lives.

It seems that leftover tinsel, redundant wrapping paper and outdated technology aren’t the only things that are going cheap and for the taking.  With all that swilling around in my soul, some questions have come to the surface of my mind and heart.

Has human life always been this discounted and expendable?

Why did we get out our red marker and put sacred life in the bargain basement bin?

By what authority has this been done?

Is there a way forward where we can put human life back on the top shelf with a price tag of ‘Irreplaceable - not for sale’?

So let’s start with the easy one.

Yes, we have not always valued the sanctity of human life. The Master who opened his arms wide to embrace death and subsumed it into the dimension of the sacred died at the hands of others because it was expedient for the day. He was one of countless millions in history.

Why do we do this? Many reasons. Greed, convenience, failure and fear, just to name a few. You can also get a great combo deal for these reasons.

By what authority has this been done? Not sure, but I do know that every time we do not call this out, we are complicit in this action, we devalue ourselves and we diminish our brothers and sisters.

The way forward must be a collective exercise for every single person, starting with the person in the mirror.

The Value of Archives

I was nostalgically going through some old files the other day. They were old pew sheets run off with quite a different technology, and the articles were a delight to read.

The ideas and content wouldn’t quite ‘fit’ into the world of 2026, but that was not the point. There are two reasons why I treasure them and think that they are relevant this year.

First, they bring back some pretty glowing memories. Much the same way a photo might remind us of an event or a party, these documents remind me of the author and his teaching. They brought back some fun times and the companionship that we enjoyed, which enhanced my life.

The other reason I hang onto these is to remind me where I have come from. These thoughts, words and reasonings formed the basis of the way I think, talk and write today. It’s a good thing to know where you have come from, where you started out, and once you have recalled this, you know how you got to be in the place and frame of mind that you are today.

You should be in a different place and headspace now, but at least understand why and how you got here.

Folks who go to family and school reunions look forward to these events for the same reasons I fossick through my filing cabinet. To understand where they have come from and to bring back some good (hopefully) memories. It’s also interesting to hear the progress of our counterparts and where life has taken them and where they are today.

If you have archives, in any format, or any long-lasting compatriots, then might I encourage you to ponder these things and continue to become the person you were always called to be?

Of Light

Last week, I printed a homily by Lisa Kelly on the beatitudes.

She made the point that usually when we read the beatitudes, we identify as one of the crowd on the mountain listening to Jesus rattle off all the “Blessed be’s”. Blessed are the peacemakers, (not Blessed are the cheesemakers as some dubious scholars have suggested), blessed are those who mourn, etc. And as we sit there listening, there is a part in all of us that wants to shout, ‘ Pick me! Pick me! I want to be pure in heart and see God. I, too, am mourning and long to be comforted.

But what if we are actually Jesus in the story and we are looking at others and seeing in them their ‘Blessedness?’ I know that you are mourning, I know that you are a peacemaker, I can see that you hunger and thirst for righteousness.’

Today, I would like to use a similar technique with the verse from the gospel ‘You are the light of the world.’

Over the course of my little life and a few flimsy decades of ministry, I have had the privilege of enjoying many ‘lights’. They have inspired, guided, nudged, goaded and lit the rocky path that needs to be trodden but which has more potholes than some of our roads.  These people have lit up my world, and I shall always be grateful to them, for them. I am also beholden to the Master who first called them and sent them to me because He knew that I needed them. It still didn’t stop me from making some spectacular blunders, but I probably didn’t make nearly as many if they had not been there for me. Many of them caught me, dusted me off and wiped away the dust and the tears.

Most have been uncomplicated parish clergy. Priests who just simply said their prayers, got on with it, failed in dazzling ways, laughed, ate and drank. They were captivating and inspiring precisely because they weren’t glitzy, smooth, polished, glib and suave. They were refreshingly snotty, grotty, knotty, gnarly and lined. Most of the time their hopes and dreams were not realised, but they understood that the darkness of despair and despondency are the weapons of hairy legs, not the One who is the light Himself. They were and are lights to me because I figured that if they could do it, then maybe, just maybe…

Many more lights were and are folk exactly like you. Folks who fronted up to hear dud sermons and read crazy quizzes in the pew sheet. Brave, courageous, faithful souls who understood long before I did that it was never about the person in the collar, it was always about Him. And that’s why they came, and that’s why they continue to come.

Some of my laity lights became clergy, and their ministry was recognised and celebrated. When they were ordained, the whole world lit up with triumph and such indescribable, limitless joy that tears of bliss were the only correct liturgical response.

My hope for your brothers and sisters is that you, too, have such lights in your world. That you might know clergy and laity who have shone brightly, sometimes at least, to show you something of Him who is THE light of the world.

There are traps, though. One of them that Our lord alludes to in today’s gospel.

“ No one after lighting a lamp puts it under the bushel basket, but on the lamp stand, and it gives light to all in the house.  In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father in heaven.”

Those who have been and are lights for me, and possibly you, have a disarming way of not seeing how much light they give off. And when it is pointed out to them, they can be self-defacing and modest.

I think that it is this abashment that Our Lord is referring to in his line about hiding our light under a lamp stand, or a bushel or whatever translation you happen to have to hand.

Wouldn’t it be better to simply accept graciously and let the light shine for the whole household of God to see and enjoy?

The other trap is to be so dazzled by someone else that you find yourself asking, ‘Why can’t I do that? How come I can’t leap tall buildings in a single bound, wear my inner garments on the outside and save the universe? And thus we find ourselves again covering up with the sack of envy the beautiful light that we all carry and are called to share.

It’s right to read the gospel and to give thanks and rejoice in the lights that have shone around us over the years, but watch what happens when we use Lisa Kelly’s trick and flip it over. What if the person in the mirror, you, your very self are a light for others?

What might happen if you claimed the Messiah’s words for yourself and simply, convincingly and with affirmation said.

I am the light of the world…. I am the light of the world.

Screens are great… but

I well remember one of my first days at St. Michael's Grammar School, where I had a go at being a school chaplain.

My supervisor/friend/mentor handed me my bright shiny, complimentary laptop and explained.

‘This is how we talk to each other.’

At first, I didn’t quite get it. Surely you actually speak face-to-face when you have a conversation. That’s the way it’s done in a parish. You make a time, knock on the door, enjoy a refreshing beverage and listen to each other. It took me a few weeks to understand what he meant. It was quicker, easier and more efficient to simply tap out a quick email, send it off to the other and get a response. All fine and dandy… up to a point. Business can get done that way, and I strongly suspect that is how it is often done. It works well in a school environment at an administrative level, but something is missing, and it is not the daily grist of priestly parish life.

Those who know about such things tell me that most of the information we impart in conversation is not the spoken words but the way we say them and the subtle or not-so-subtle verbal cues. The crossed arms of grumpiness, the open arms of consolation, the laughter to signal uncontrollable joy. The tears of deep sadness, the silence of companionship. You can’t do gentle, tender, convivial quiet on a screen together. It’s simply not the same, and for all that emojis are fun, they just don’t cut it.

While it is true that I do some things on a screen and it works at one level, I give thanks that often my best encounters are at the kitchen table, where little is spoken, and the screen is absent.

Homily

About the author Lisa Kelly

Lisa Kelly is an Ignatian Associate living in Omaha, Nebraska. 

She has a Master’s in Public Policy from Harvard and a Master’s in Christian Spirituality, together with a certificate in the Ignatian Tradition.

Lisa is co-director of the nonprofit La Storta and an accompanier for the Discerning Leadership Program. She leads retreats and leadership courses.

She is the author of the book The Spiritual Path.

She has four grown children and a 30+ year marriage filling her heart. Lisa is a grateful cancer and bone marrow transplant survivor, and believes that every day is a gift.

 In her reflection, which I have called  “The In crowd”, notice how she flips the common perspective of the Beatitudes on its head. Instead of wondering whether Jesus sees me as living out the beatitudes, we are challenged to confront the reality of whether we see others as blessed. Perhaps it is when we see those around us as blessed that the bestirring mystery of love finally happens and we find that in turn we become blessed. Looking outwards at others, rather than trying to look at ourselves and see if we are part of the in crowd.

Lisa Kelly writes

For all of my life, as I have heard the Beatitudes read, my first reaction has been: “Which one am I? I am definitely not the poor in spirit. Am I the peacemaker? Am I the one who hungers for righteousness?”

Essentially, I saw the teaching as who I needed to be to be “in” with Jesus. So after 40-plus years of trying to find myself in the Beatitudes, I experienced a bit of a revelation through the Ignatian Prayer Adventure to find that the Beatitudes are less about who I am and more about how I see everyone else. They are about seeing others through the eyes of Christ.

The Beatitudes appear in the Gospel of Matthew and are shared shortly after the call of the disciples. If I put myself in the scene as St. Ignatius instructs, I’m the one with the Hermione Granger hand shooting up in a panic to be called on, “Oh, pick me! Pick me!” even though I have no idea what exactly Jesus was seeking in the call of his disciples. Instead, he walks on up the mountainside, and I am left feeling a bit dismissed.

As the crowds begin to form to hear Jesus preach, I feel oddly competitive and judgmental. I wonder if he sees me as just one of the crowd. Suddenly, as if asking the question were the key to taking me into his head, I find myself no longer one of the crowd, but rather staring at the crowd through Jesus’ eyes. He begins to preach the Beatitudes, but I am now seeing people differently. As he says, “Blessed are the poor in spirit,” I notice a woman who dares not look up, but I now know her story of being ridiculed relentlessly from a young age. As Jesus says, “Blessed are those who mourn,” there is a man standing against a tree with distraught eyes, red and glassy, with tear streaks down his face. Somehow, I know he has lost his child and subsequently his will to live. And as the sermon goes on, each of the “in” crowd shows himself or herself with their stories, ones I had been too self-focused to imagine previously.

It was less than two minutes of prayer and reflection, yet it changed my understanding of what it means to be “blessed.” Each of those around me was blessed in some way—if only I was willing to look for it.

Now, when I hear the Beatitudes, I don’t worry if I fit in with Jesus’ list of the blessed. Instead, I hear how I am called to see others. When I walk down any street, I can hear that same voice in my head, “Blessed is this one and that one, and him, and her…” as if Jesus were pointing out individuals to me. Those whose stories I don’t know are not my competition and are not there for me to judge. If I can begin by seeing each individual with the title of “blessed,” I find myself blessed just to be in the crowd among them.

25/1/26

How To Make a Disciple.

Some of my favourite ‘I don’t have to think about television shows are actually cooking shows. Nigella Lawson, Rick Stein, Adam Liaw, and Canadian bakeoff to name but a few.

The scenery is exotic, the food looks scrumptious, and we are always reassured that it smells enticing and tastes terrific. Recipes are available on the website, and the dishes never fail.

Today’s gospel is a recipe on how to make a disciple. It looks easy; any crazy fisherman could do it, and we are even given a pattern of a recipe.

Cure the sick, proclaim the good news, cast out a few skanky demons and say the mantra ‘Follow me’ often enough and… ta da! Here’s one that was prepared earlier. Well, this seems simple enough.

But what is not immediately apparent is that there is a lot of hard work that goes into making a disciple, and just as we don’t get to see the slicing and dicing, the gathering of the ingredients and the waiting, so there is much that lies hidden from us in the gospel. On a quick, cursory reading of the call of that first motley crew, we are only given the skimpiest of recipes.

So today I want to go behind the scenes with the camera crew, the research editors and the sound techies and offer a few little insights into some of the hard slog, laborious, unglamorous work in making a disciple.

The first ingredient you need, and this might sound really odd, is you start with several large dollops of silence. You simply just place yourself in The Master's presence and listen to what He has to say. Still yourself and learn again, for the umpteenth time, this whole exercise is not about you. It must always first and foremost be, about the one who calls and the one who he is calling.

You might find this silence thing easy to do, but I never have. Yet I know it to be an essential and vital ingredient in our recipe. Silence before your encounter, silence during your encounter and silence after. Just as our master chefs on the screen liberally slosh and splash wine into the pan, so too be generous and uninhibited with the amount of silence you use.

You get better results that way, and you’ll be a better chef for it.

The next step in the recipe is reorientation. The disciples had their sights set on the next great catch of fish, and they had to have their focus shifted from lots of mackerel and tuna to the calling of the vulnerable, the grubby and the undesirable. This is what you will be catching from now on, gentleman. You will be catching people. Flawed, fallible, hard-wired for sin and mortality, human beings.

Reorientation is hard, and it is hard because it is not a simple, straightforward one-off forever and ever action, but a continuous, consistent, conscious turning and focusing away from the past and its ick, to the future and the joy of walking with Him. Looking forward together. All Disciples, no matter how long they’ve been trying to follow the Master, are sorely tempted to look back to the past. Guilt is a great head turner.

The next ingredient is light. Bright some light, shed some light, BE the light. Many of us, I suspect, have been in a social setting where there has been at least one person in the room who has been glowing. They are not usually the noisy ones, the gregarious ones, or the extroverted. They are the ones who you know you can trust, who have an inner calm and confidence, whose faith and inner strength you just know that you can rely on. These are the fisher people who give off His light, and others are drawn to it. Be this light. Be his light.

What else is in the recipe?

Healing.. this is both easy and difficult. The method is easy. Just sit with the would-be disciple and listen. You might have to sit in silence for a long time, many times, but this willingness to sit alongside and listen, not condemn or offer shonky advice, but to ask questions and wait…. Is far more effective and beneficial than the sling,  antibiotics, or blood test. There’s outward healing with Band-Aids and IV drips, and you rightly go to the right appropriate places for that sort of healing.

For everything else, the really important healing, use the instruments of an attentive ear and a pastoral heart.

It occurred to me as I wrote about all these ingredients, silence, reorientation, light, and healing, that these are not just for newly minted disciples. These are all things that the well-seasoned, much-experienced disciples strive for and continuously aspire to. So perhaps I should simply say this.

That in order to make a disciple,… first… become one yourself.

The Horton Criteria

Some of you will remember fondly the wit and charm of Dr Seuss fondly. He wrote such immortal classics as ‘The Cat in the Hat’, ‘Green Eggs and Ham’ and ‘Horton Hears a Who’.

His phrases have echoed with me down over the years, like ‘I do not like them, Sam I am’ and

‘A person is a person no matter how small.’

We glimpse this simple ‘Horton truth’ especially in children. We know that they are infinitely precious. A real person who gradually reveals more of themselves over time. A living, dancing, jumping, laughing, vulnerable, enjoyable miracle.

But somehow, as the years whizz by and they grow up, we become very adept at attaching labels to them. We have become very inventive at this process, and there seems to be no end to the labels we can affix to people and the way we attach them.

We have a plethora of gender labels, and the labels that tell us how others express themselves most intimately. We have labels describing our origin, our place of worship (if we have one), our current address and what colour tie our favourite politician wears, if, in fact, they wear one at all.

Sadly, I strongly suspect that we are not done with this labelling process, and we will find new designer labels to affix to our brothers and sisters. I am open to being convinced that the whole labelling thing is jolly unhelpful and very unproductive.

At the moment, I find it disappointing and restrictive. By focusing on one label, we are limiting our thinking to one singular aspect of the other. The reality is that people are much more like a kaleidoscope with unending multiples of colours and dimensions.

Couldn’t we just use the ‘Horton criteria’. ‘A person is a person no matter how small?’

18/1/26

Today's homily is an excerpt from a homily by Alyce McKenzie.

Alyce M. McKenzie is Professor of Homiletics at the Southern Methodist University Perkins School of Theology in Dallas, Texas. She is the author of a number of books including "Preaching Proverbs: Wisdom for the Pulpit" and "Parables for Today,"

Of Introductions

I have a friend, Susan, who says her husband always remembers a face but seldom a name. So when they go to a social event and approach someone whose name he should know but does not remember, they have devised a social strategy that works for them. He places his hand gently in the small of her back and guides her toward the person with these words, "This is my wife, Susan." Anyone with any manners at all is going to respond by giving their own name. Not many people are going to just stare at Susan until it becomes awkwardly clear that her husband has no recollection of their name. I'll bet that any of you reading this would respond by putting out your hand, shaking her hand, and saying, with a gracious smile, "It's nice to meet you, Susan. My name is ___________."

Our text for this morning has John introducing Jesus to some of his (John's) disciples, with the description: "Look, here is the Lamb of God!" This is called a "revelation formula”. John likes to use this technique when recounting people's interactions with Jesus in his gospel. For example In 1:49, Nathanael introduces Jesus to his view of him: "Rabbi, you are the Son of God!" Jesus dying on the cross introduces his mother to the disciple whom he loved and vice versa. "Woman, here is your son. . . . Here is your mother."

In today's gospel, Jesus prompts the disciples to figure out their own true identity, or, more precisely, to be guided toward it by Jesus. It's an odd scenario, really. Not like anything that would happen in ordinary social gatherings when people are introduced to other people. John introduces Jesus to two of his own disciples. It sounds like he may almost have been talking to himself, and they overheard. They followed Jesus. When he turns around and asks, "What are you looking for?" he is asking them to identify themselves. To say something like: "We are two people looking for meaning and purpose in our lives, and we think you may be it." I think the reason they don't say that is because they are not sure who they are or even that they are looking for something. So instead of answering, they counter Jesus' question with another question: "Where are you staying?"

And they stay with him all day. At some time during the day, Andrew, one of the two, goes and gets his brother Simon. He introduces Jesus to his brother from a distance with the description "This is our Messiah, Jesus." In the subsequent face-to-face encounter with Jesus, Jesus gives Simon a new identity: "You are Simon, son of John. You are to be called Cephas" (1:42).

In terms of my friend Susan's anecdote, John the Baptist is introducing us to Jesus, saying, "This is the Lamb of God, Jesus."

This introduction tells us three things about Jesus.

First, He is the lamb who destroys evil.

Second, He is the Suffering Servant willing to give his life for the redemption of his people.

Third, He is the paschal lamb who takes away our sins and leads us from bondage to liberation.

In bread and wine, in spoken word and silence, in stolen homilies, in chortles of laughter and unstoppable sobbing The Master introduces himself to us.

It is now up to us to put out our hand and say who we are and allow him to shape our identity in the year to come.

I suspect Susan's husband is not the only one who utilises the "this is my wife, Susan" social technique to get somebody to reveal his or her identity to them. I admit to having used the "this is my husband Murry" approach on many an occasion. It worked for John the Baptist, as he introduces Jesus: "This is the Lamb of God." It motivated two men wandering around looking for something, unaware they were looking for something, to follow Jesus and allow him to give them an identity as more than wanderers.

This is the one who will shape our identities if we choose to follow him. This is the one who is working against injustice and brutality in our world and in our lives. This is the one who was willing to sacrifice his life that we might have a new life and who calls us to sacrifice selfish aims and comfortable goals. This is the one who opens a path to that new life through choppy seas and roaring waves. Through the grave into eternity itself.

Hoping for an answer, today he looks at us lovingly and says

"Look! I am the Lamb of God." And you are . . . ?

God of our Messiness

We are sometimes seduced by the thinking that God is especially present and vigorously active when our life is all cruisy and sweet. Surely we see Him at work in next week's Tattslotto numbers, when a gorgeous person falls in love with us. When the stars align, it must mean that there is a God and He is actively looking after us.

It's a little harder to glimpse Him when things go awry. When there is that sudden and unexpected death, when there is a serious falling out with someone you care about and when you tragically, finally must go to the vet with a pet who cannot be made better.

The God I know is just as present, active and energetic when He is stirring the messy, bubbling cauldron of our lives. He is just as comfy with our weeping and whimpering as he is with our laughter and giggling.

The faith I profess and try to live up to must embrace every gamut and every atom of who we are. Nothing can be separate from or held aloof by God. Rather, he takes our messiness into himself, subsumes it and makes it holy.

We glimpsed this in the muck of the manger at Christmass. We will see it vividly on Good Friday. God is right there when we witness the very worst that a Human being can do to another. I see the God of our messiness frequently at funerals where people tenderly, but magnificently, rise to support and nurture one another in ways that surprise even themselves.

So next time I am up to and in over my neck, in an icky mess, probably of my own making, I will remember that I have a companion in the cesspit of alligators with me. The God of my messiness.